Thursday, May 15, 2014

Giving up on being Superwoman



This year off of teaching has given me loads of free time, right?  What does a stay-at-home mom do with all of that time?!  I must be failing at housewifery if I'm not living in a pristine house, cooking extravagent meals ready at 6pm every day, and exposing my child to all the available learning opportunities.  In case you haven't realized yet, I'm being sarcastic.  Articles on the stressful lives of full-time parents have been popping up on social media a lot lately.  I never expected it to be easy, but I do think I subconsciously stored a lot of the misconceptions about what a stay at home mom should be.  I have done some Martha Stewartish crafts, made some granola-crunchy/green momma changes to our household, and paid more attention to what food goes into our bodies, but these changes are not sustainable for me, especially now that I'm (hopefully) going back to teaching.  So, here it is, my list of things that I will NOT try to do in the next year.  Not because I don't want to, but because I am not superwoman, and I'm trying to be okay with that.

some cacti that were pretty once

I will NOT try to:
  • Bake all our own wholegrain sandwich bread.  I did it this year, every two or three weeks.  Healthy?yes.  Yummy?yes.  Worth the time? probably not.
  • Avoid fast & easy meals.  I still don't want the chemicals and preservatives, but there's nothing wrong with Dinner a la Microwave every now and then.
  • Go Jogging every morning.  Yeah, that was never going to happen anyway.
  • Build my own above ground planters and start a vegetable garden.  Nice thoughts, but I live in Phoenix Valley.  Vegetables don't want to grow here and I don't want to convince them. 
  • Take on sewing projects.  I can't sew fast or very well.  Maybe I'll make a tablecloth or a window valance once in a while, but that's about it.
  • I made that meal.
  • Obsess about my child's development.  No, he isn't eating.  No, he isn't crawling.  I'm sure he's fine. 
I am not going to try and do those things because I think these things are more important:
  • Relaxing with my husband and child
  • Doing my (hopefully, soon-to-be, I don't want to jinx it) job to the best of my abilities
  • Playing cello
  • Playing with the dog
  • Sleeping a reasonable amount each night
That's it for now.  I've completed several job applications and the waiting has begun.






I made that valence

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Colin is 7 months old and growing up so fast!  He isn't crawling yet or moving himself into a sitting position, but he can pull himself from sitting to standing.  He doesn't generally roll much but rolls over in the crib all the time.  He HATES being on his tummy but every time I go and get him in the middle of the night because he's crying, he's pushed up on his hands and tummy.  He likes to sleep on his side so I guess he falls on his tummy in the night.(?)  Speaking of night, no real improvement in sleeping time.  He wakes up every 3 hours in the night (sometimes less).  He doesn't usually go back to sleep unless he nurses.  I wouldn't mind it if I could just take him into the bed with us and let him sleep there, but he is one of the strange babies that actually doesn't want to cosleep.  It seems he is unable to sleep soundly with the temptation to nurse nearby.  He says dadadada and often sounds like he is speaking the language of the squirrels in The Sword in the Stone.
 



The other new thing is elimination communication, something I'd heard about earlier but never thought I'd be crazy enough to try with Colin. [WARNING:  POOPY TALK]  So, Colin has started eating some purees- not much yet- but I am less comfortable with putting poopy diapers right in the wash.  Since Colin was a month or two old I have been able to tell when he needed to go and I made it a habit to help him poop in his diaper by holding up his knees so he's in a squatting position.  So I thought...why not just do that over the potty.  And it's been working.  For the last three weeks he's been going in the potty and we haven't had to prerinse cloth diapers.  There are people who would say this isn't pure EC since Colin is still in a diaper all the time and I make no attempt to get his pee in the potty as well, but I don't really care what you call it.  I call it less work for me!

Murphy is back in the cone of shame these days.  He keeps licking and chewing his paws until they are raw.  The vet says it's allergies.  He was on prednisone and then orthotricyclene...which seemed to be working for a few weeks, but now the licking is back so I'm looking for something else to try. This week I added fish oil into his diet, but that has made no difference to anything but his breath.  I'm also back to washing his feet every 2 or 3 days with special medicated shampoo.  Next up is revisiting the choice of dog food.  He's on a good quality one but maybe he's become sensitive to poultry or potatoes.  I'm willing to try just about anything to stop the crying out in pain and self-mutilation.  He's doing so well at agility too- very little zooming off and no growling at nearby dogs.  One of the instructors suggested we consider doing a show.  One thing at a time though...

Summer is coming and the pressure is on for me to get an interview for a teaching job.  I actually had to do one recorded interview over a webcam.  It was the strangest interview ever, I got 20 seconds to think about each question and one chance to record each answer in under three minutes and had to watch my awkward self on the screen as I did it.  I'm sure it's convenient for some but I'll take an in-person interview over that any day.  I love being home with Colin but I'll be glad to go back to the predictable schedule of a work day.  I'm the type of person that gets more done under stress, the type who accomplishes less when there is plenty of free time.

Our summer plans are a bit up in the air still.  Robert is going to be the chaplain at a children's camp for part of the summer, and also filling in as a supply priest.  We are talking about a trip to Alabama but that's not for sure.  We are also going to be getting a second car sometime soon.  It's really starting to feel like summer already.